Loss of Sexual Appetite for Men!
Men are now asking why it is that suddenly the male sex drive that was once so potent in their lives has suddenly floundered and all but disappeared? So if you’re healthy yet find that you’ve lost interest in sex, perhaps I can help you discover why that is and what you can do about it.
loss of sexual appetite
The following is a list of things that might be hindering your sex drive. Perhaps if one of these reasons rings a bell, you can take the necessary steps to help yourself and start enjoying a rich sex life again.
You gained weight
Believe it or not, putting on weight can take its toll on your body and deplete you of energy, which leads to a drop in your levels of sexual excitement. As well, if you don’t feel attractive due to the weight gain, chances are you won’t want to delve into sexual indulgences.
Solution: Haul your butt into a gym and start working out, not just for your health, but so that you feel good about yourself again. Before you know it, you’ll be back to your horny self in no time.
You’re tired, stressed
After working like an animal and being cursed at by your boss, the last thing you want to do is go home and have to put on a sexual performance for your woman. You’d much rather get home, turn on the TV, pop open a brewsky, and chill out.
Solution: Plan a weekend getaway at a bed and breakfast for the both of you and take the time to appreciate each other’s bodies, or take a vacation in which all you need to do is lie in the sun.
You’re on medication
If you’re taking any medication, whether it be to treat depression or get rid of a rash, it might be depleting you of your sex drive. Ask your doctor or pharmacist if your medication may be affecting your libido.
Solution: Take all your medication and only once you’ve taken care of your initial problem can you get back to your sexual play. Do not, under any circumstances, stop taking your medicine unless advised to do so by your health care professional.
You’re getting older
That’s right, when we were 18 years old, we were able to penetrate our hearts out, but now that we’ve gotten older, having sex twice a night is almost an impossible task for many. With age comes some drawbacks and one may be a lowered sex drive.
Solution: Keep up your health by exercising, eating right and avoiding alcohol and tobacco. As well, if you find that your erection hasn’t been very cooperative as of late, why not get your hands on the infamous little blue pill?
You do all the work
Although you enjoy making love to your woman, knowing that you have to do all the work discourages you from taking initiative. And considering so much emphasis is placed on her satisfaction as opposed to your own, the pressure to perform becomes doubly discouraging.
Solution: Get her to do some of the work by talking with her about what you desire most when it comes to sex. Her desire to please you might lead her to take action. And keep in mind that although her having an orgasm is a great thing, it shouldn’t be the only goal you have when making love. Focus on your needs as well, that way, you can both enjoy the intimate experience.
You’re tired of vanilla
It’s always the same old same old. Whenever you make love, you’re in the same bedroom, you engage in the same positions and your love life has become a routine endeavor. And because you know what to expect all the time, you just aren’t excited about making love.
Solution: Stir things up a bit; rent a motel room, dress up, have sex in the kitchen, try new positions. Do whatever it takes to turn on that sexual intrigue for both of you.
She’s not the same
She used to be eager to make love but now it seems she’s doing it more out of duty rather than pleasure. Every time you want to make love, she gives you this disapproving look and then just lies there whereas a while back, she used to look forward to seeing you just to get into your pants.
Solution: Talk to her about it. Let her know how you feel by reminiscing about the way things used to be between the two of you. Don’t turn this into an argument; keep it in “discussion” mode. Use “I” when speaking and not the accusatory “you.”
You’re no longer attracted to her
She used to be a size six and dressed up in thongs and lace bras to lure you into her cave, but it’s been a couple of years and she has gained about 25 pounds and no longer places any importance on how she looks for you (or herself).
Solution: In a sensitive manner, ask her to join a gym with you and encourage healthier eating for both of you. After all, you can’t complain about her weight gain if you managed to put on a couple of pounds yourself. As well, buy her those sexy outfits and discuss fantasies (both yours and hers) with her. If she refuses to make any changes, however, then maybe it’s time to reevaluate your relationship.
It’s always available
Your woman is hot and raring to go. Every night when you get home, she’s wearing a different sexy outfit and she always wants to have sex. Come to think of it, she’s always approaching you for sex and you find yourself rejecting her more and more often. It’s unfortunate but true; when something, anything, is so readily available for the taking, we tend to stop desiring it and sex is no different. You need a challenge.
Solution: It’s time to start playing sex games; you can be the enforcer and she can act like the innocent schoolgirl who doesn’t want to sleep with you. Eventually though, you have to learn to accept that you should be grateful that you have a woman who wants you all the time. Some guys would kill to be in your shoes.
it’s up to you
Sometimes all it takes to jump-start things again is a little change and if you’re willing to work at it, you can definitely change things for the better. Take a look at yourself and your relationship and discover what it is that’s been holding you back, and then make the necessary changes.
